This is a question that was asked of me this afternoon. I have no clue of the perspective of onlookers , but from my own it felt like my words came with little hesitation. The question was worded actually as “Would you take in a LGBT teen?” My first response was no one over twelve as we want to keep the birth order as a priority, but ultimately yes to a child within our age range. All I could think was that child needs love and a family as much as anyone. Also what came to mind is that it is sin that throws a child into this crazy foster care system to begin with. Whatever means the child has been sinned against the abuse, sexual, physical, mental, emotional, and/or neglect (many times all of the above) that child is going to be messed up and confused no matter what. For me to judge and say no I will not love you and care for you defeats the purpose of the very ministry our family is being called to do.
My authority is God and His word. His word tells me ALL have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory. (Romans 3:23) I am a sinner. My own sin is no better and no worse than anyone else’s. It may look different than another person’s, but sin is sin in God’s eyes. Jesus carried the weight of ALL sin of ALL mankind on the cross. He paid the payment of ALL sin so that ALL can be forgiven. When Jesus walked this earth who did he minister to? He ministered to those that the “holier than thou”, “self righteous” religious leaders of the day called “sinners”. It was those religious leaders that Jesus truly had the hardest time with because they did not realize their own need for Him. Jesus met each person that was willing to trust Him and receive Him right at their deepest need. He met them where they were and provided physical healing, spiritual healing, emotional healing, forgiveness, grace and mercy. He never condoned the sin nor said it was ok keep on doing what you have been. He loved them healed them and said “Go and sin no more.” John 8:11 being just one example. Jesus met them at the core of their problem and healed them from the inside out. That is the example God has given us to live by. To meet others at their need and love them. Then we can point to the one that can truly bring about change and healing for a person.
Another calling on my life has been nursing. For over 21 years now I have cared for criminals, addicts, contagious disease baring, suicidal, abusive, ungrateful, all sexual lifestyles, psychotic, mentally disabled, physically disabled, bitter, helpless, weak, etc… My calling as a nurse is to provide care, healing based on human abilities, empathy, and to meet people in their time of need. The calling has been that I take whoever God places in my care and that I do not have the right to pick and choose.
I guess when it comes to this next/additional calling in life I feel called to the same standards as Jesus’ example He gave us in the Word of God. We will have questions to ask case workers and have the safety of our own girls to keep in mind of course. The fact that a child may question their sexuality I do not feel is a compromise on God’s word by us taking them into our home. Saying that any kind of sin is “ok” IS a compromise to God’s word. Also not loving someone because I think their sin is worse than my own is a huge compromise to what God’s word teaches.
What I do know is that I am already praying for God to give us discernment, protect us from being sinned against, protect us from sinning, for our children to flee from temptations, for God’s protection of them, for us to trust God with all our hearts, and for us to love unconditionally. We are being called to meet a child/children and their families at their time of need. We are not called to judge them we are called to provide love, safety, forgiveness, and point them to the only one who can provide true healing…Jesus.