Have you ever thought about the hypocrisy there is in the act of complaining? Complaints are heard by all of us all day long. We hear complaints on the media, through social media, through work, school, family, clubs, sports, while driving our cars, and even in our churches. Some days I feel beat down and bombarded by complaints. The conviction within my own soul when I fall into temptation to complain has become more and more overwhelming as my relationship with Christ deepens. There are times that I really can’t stand myself if the nasty negativity virus takes over my thoughts and speech. Through observation of complainers and unfortunately times of participation God has revealed a lot of truth to me. How often is the very wrong you hear a complainer moaning about something you just witnessed that complainer do within the last twenty four hours or maybe even five minutes? We are so often blind to our own downfalls and imperfections. One very clear observation is that it seems everyone at one time or another thinks that they work harder than everyone else. By deeming themselves the hardest working and smartest of the bunch they nominate themselves the official complainer and tattle tale. This can be observed in toddlers age two to adults one hundred and two. Human sin nature is so sneaky that it allows our pride to blind us to how ridiculous our complaints are. Complaining breeds such nasty selfishness, bitterness, and anger within us. The very act of keeping score destroys relationships. Families, friends, and co-workers keeping score of who did or didn’t do something negates any kind of team work. In a marriage it can be devastating to keep score. In First Corinthians chapter 13 verse five says that love “keeps no record of wrongs”. Is it love that is flowing from us when we keep a track record of who does or does not do? It is quite the opposite of love.
Last week I had a day that was one of those weary days of hearing complaints and even coming across people that the tension of their anger just radiated from them. The final kicker was a lady that abruptly drove up to the rear of my vehicle on a two lane road. As I looked in my rear view mirror she was waving her hands, yelling, and had the most hateful look on her face. It was obvious that she had very bright orangish red hair and that she was an older woman. I then turned my eyes to my speedometer that read 48 mph and we were in a 45 mph speed zone. Much to my unbelief she passed my car in a no passing zone around a blinding curve. Whatever her complaints and anger was about I wondered if it was really worth her risking her own safety as well as who ever maybe coming around that curve. She was driving in the opposite direction of all the schools and hospitals so I couldn’t even come up with that as an excuse for her poor driving behavior. Can our complaints deliver us physical harm? Most definately especially if we complain to the wrong person at the wrong time. Complaining is a good way to have someone “clean your clock”, it also may cost a person employment, it diminishes one’s integrity, and definately will cause loss of respect. Complaining also will set the bar much higher because it will set one up to be more closely observed. If one chooses to complain then it’s best to be on one’s toes to not do the very thing they are complaining about. The complainer will be called out eventually.
My prayer personally is to not be a complainer. Colosians 3:23 has been a huge help for me in this. “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men,” I can never be treated as unfairly as Jesus himself was yet He forgave and laid down His life for all of us sinning complainers.
At the end of that rough day I was to help lead in our Awana program. My prayer as I drove to church that evening was to see God’s love and peace. For there to be peace and love that only comes from God coming from me after a day of being beat down. He is always faithful. It was a wonderful evening. After spending time with my third and fourth grade girls helping them memorize their scripture verses there were a couple girls that were new to our Awana group. With bright and beautiful smiles they kept saying how much fun they had in “this class”. They had fun memorizing God’s Word. God turned a day of feeling beat down by a negative world to raising my spirit high above it through these precious girls. Phillippians 2:14-15 “Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, chidren of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe” Lord please help me to be a positive shining star!!!