When I really stop and try to think of a time that arguing has ever solved any kind of problem I truly can not think of an example. Even if someone gets their way by arguing what is really won when hostility and harsh feelings are left behind? There is nothing that cools the flames of anger any better than love. Love given when the person on the receiving end may be far from deserving of it. Love is the only power that can break down the walls of bitterness. Our human nature wants to always be right, but what is the cost? Our pride can cost us our family, friends, employment, reputation, blessings in life, and the list goes on.
Holding our tongue and showing love instead of anger is the greatest problem solving solution I have ever know to actually work. Maybe because it is God’s solution to conflict…LOVE!
2 Timothy 2:23-25 “And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.”
Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Words are so powerful. Words of anger cause problems. Words of love solves them.